While divorce is never simple, ending an abusive marriage can be exceptionally difficult and dangerous. The primary aim of an abuser is to maintain control over the victim. Nevertheless, leaving an abusive spouse is one of the most empowering decisions you can make. For immediate assistance, call The Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-788-7233, text START to 88788, or reach out to Domestic Violence Intervention Services (DVIS), a 24-hour crisis helpline servicing Tulsa and Creek Counties, at (918) 743-5763.

Secure a Divorce Attorney to Safely Exit Your Marriage

Leaving an abusive spouse can potentially escalate their behavior, making the weeks and months following the departure the most dangerous period. Seeking support from a divorce lawyer experienced in domestic violence is vital.

Get a Cell Phone and Protect Your Online Presence

Many abusers limit victims' access to others by monitoring their internet and phone usage. If possible, obtain a second cell phone and change your online passwords and device unlock codes.

Keep a Record of Abuse

Documenting abuse provides a concrete account and serves as a crucial tool in legal proceedings to support your request for protection.

Find a Safe Place to Live

Consider exploring alternatives, such as staying with a trusted friend, family, or a local domestic violence shelter.

Safeguard Important Documents

Take the time to carefully organize and securely store identification, financial records, and legal paperwork with a reliable friend or family member.

Plan Your Escape

Secure shelter, build a financial reserve, and rely on a trustworthy support network as you plan a safe exit.

Engage Your Community

Inform your children's school and your employer of the situation. If you find yourself in an abusive marriage, Eggert Law is here to support you.

If you're not safe, an Oklahoma protective order attorney can help you take immediate action.

To understand the bigger picture, read about how domestic violence impacts family law.

You don't have to go through this alone — we offer support through the divorce process every step of the way.

It also helps to understand how DV changes a family law case before you head into court.